Making an aligned decision is NOT always as simple as it sounds, especially when we’re not clear on certain things. In order to make a decision that feel right for us, we need to be well connected to our core values, boundaries and the feeling of alignment in our bodies. Without these things, we may default to making a decision based on the opinions of people close to us, what we think will make others happy or what seems most logical.
Oftentimes, as people pleasers, and human beings, we just want to ‘keep the peace’. We don’t want to disturb anyone, or make people feel uncomfortable.
That ends now.
We do not have to live as smaller versions of ourselves in order to protect how others might feel or react. The more we reconnect to ourselves, the more natural it will feel to make aligned decisions.
In order to make aligned decisions we need to be clear on: our core values, boundaries, and what love and alignment feel like in the body.
Core Values
Understanding and developing our core values is something I think is really worthwhile. These are our guides, inner compass, and starting place. Core values are a representation of who we are, and the energy we want to embody. Any decision we make should be a reflection of, and align with, at least one of our core values.
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Boundaries
Our boundaries represent what we will and will not tolerate in our lives, and what we will give our energy to. They are meant to be tests that other people need to pass. They are limits we set based on past experiences, present feelings, and future goals. Boundaries can be set with people, time, social media, and more. They don’t necessarily have to be permanent either. Boundaries may change based on the current focus in our lives.
Love and alignment in the body
Awareness of sensations in the body is extremely helpful when it comes to making decisions. When we’re faced with a choice, we can check in with how the body responds. Does it feel tense or like something’s closing? Or, does it soften, does it feel open to receiving?
Take some time to observe this feeling with smaller decisions first. We can ask ourselves simple, or mundane questions and notice how the different options feel in our bodies. Then, when we have to make bigger decisions we will feel familiar with what a clear yes or no feels like.
Making aligned decisions is a practice
Especially when we feel unsure about what to do, making a decision that feels aligned can be challenging!
Just because we have these tools doesn’t mean we’ll always get it ‘right.’ All we can do is the best we can in any given moment. Remember, making a choice based on your values, boundaries, and responses from the body doesn’t mean it’s the easiest choice. However, it will be the one most in alignment with who we are.